Excerpt from
Think And Date Like A Man
CHAPTER 2: Men and Their Biological Clocks
— Yes, They Have Them, Too!
Learn What Makes Him Tick, and Then You'll Really Know What Time It Is
By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. --Socrates (469 BC - 399 BC)
Is there a way to get him to commit?
If you're trying to get your boyfriend to make a commitment, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you can stop trying to manipulate, sweet-talk or pressure him into proposing. The bad news is that there's nothing you can do to speed up the process. That's not to say it'll never happen. Men fall in love and get married every day. But men have their own biological clocks. When they're ready, they head down the aisle -- but not a moment sooner. In the meantime, it's not possible to convince a commitment-phobic guy that you're the best thing that will ever happen to him"even if you are! Instead, your best bet is to look for someone who doesn't need convincing.
The Sex and the City gang once compared a marriage-ready man to a taxi: At a certain point in his life, he becomes ready for commitment. His "available" light goes on and the next lady in his life gets the ring. Luckily for us, it's easy to tell the difference between men who've got a light on and one who's just driving around in the dark. How can you tell the taxi light has gone on?
How do you spot a man who is ready for the whole enchilada?
1. A Man Who Wants To Become Your Husband Acts Like Your Husband.
When a man is ready to become a husband "your husband", he simply starts acting like a husband. For instance, he will talk about the future and he will make plans for the future; he will introduce you to his family and friends; he will not only call you daily, but he'll want to tell you the details of his day, while having a desire to hear about yours.
Men don't feel the urge to get married as quickly as women do because their clothes all button and zip in the front. Women's dresses usually button and zip in the back. We need men emotionally and sexually, but we also need men to help us get dressed. - Rita Rudner
2. He Suggests You Would Have Beautiful Children
While fertility doesn't decrease as dramatically for a man as it does for a woman, a man does have a biological clock, experts say. In general, "there's a decline in testosterone of about 1% per year for men after age 30," said Dr. Harry Fisch, director of the Male Reproductive Center at Columbia University in New York City. But it's difficult to pinpoint which men will have trouble conceiving a child with a birth defect based on age, he said. "The problem is the biological clock ticks at different speeds for different men."
3. He's Financially Independent
Most men's priorities tend to be focused on winning financial security before having a family. If he's still struggling to pay his bills, he's not going to want to add the burden of supporting a wife. Moreover, if you're dealing with a man who is unable to commit to a full time job, he's not a good bet for a full time commitment to a marriage to you.
However, there is also the phenomenon of the man who has good job security, and indeed, is financially independent, yet still not able to leave the starting gate. Many very ambitious man have something called ńthe numberī that's the goal they are trying to reach financially, whether its half a million dollars, ten million dollars, or whatever. Though by any standard, they already have the financial means, psychologically, they still are not ready. They won't be ready until they hit that number, whatever it is for them.
4. He’s Not Seduced By The Single’s Scene Anymore
The fact is the singles scene no longer appeals to a man who is ready to marry. Men ready to commit, no matter what age they are, will freely admit to feeling uncomfortable and out of place in the bars, pool halls and dance clubs that were once their favorite pick up hotspots and hangouts. They will increasingly change their lifestyle to one that is more domestic, whether it is at their house, their married friends or their families. They might even leave that swinging loft downtown, and buy something in a good school system, with a yard.
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