Excerpt from
Think And Date Like A Man
SECTION III: THE BEDROOM
The art of sex is sadly left to racy television shows and books to teach us what to do, when really, this information is a gift that should be passed down from loved one to loved one through the generations. But hopefully, you'll think of me as your family of sorts, and allow me to tell you what it is that men like, so that you can keep him coming back to you again and again.
You've probably heard the cliché that men want a lady and a whore (in one) in the bedroom. Well, it's true. They do. But it's not really a whore they want so much as someone who is comfortable with sex. Giving pleasure and receiving pleasure, sexually, is one of life's reasons for being, and when your lover or boyfriend or husband takes you to bed, what happens there is the only thing in this busy world that is truly between the two of you. So, make it count. Make what happens in the bedroom so delectable, that he can't get what you two have done together — or you — out of his mind.
Which is where you need to start. For god's sakes turn off the telephone, the television and focus all your attention on him. Everything you have done up until now — making a good first impression, dating and preening for dating, conversing and flirting — it all culminates here, in bed. This is why he is dating — for sex with a woman he loves or wants to love. And this is why you have engaged and enticed him, to allow him to win your affections.
Everything he does in the bedroom is right. Every part of his body is good. And everything you do together is as it should be. This is not the time or place to be squeamish or prudish. This is a place where you must never let boredom set its head to rest. This is a playground — for adults. You must keep him engaged time and again, and that means you must keep your body, your grooming, your lingerie and bed clothes, and your interests and education here, as current as you do in public, social situations. If it sounds like a lot of work, relax. The reason you keep your sexual self as well maintained as your working self, or your family self is so that you can have the same confidence and allure in the bedroom that you have at a party or a dance.
Once here, let his mood guide you, as you give him pleasure — and absolutely let him give you pleasure, too. Explore his body with a mixture of sophistication and newfound awe. Bring your expertise to the bedroom, but allow for surprises — for his body is unique, and while all men have pretty much the same parts, each human being responds differently to each touch.
What happens here, in the bedroom, is really a barometer for the rest of the relationship. If the sex is good, there is a margin for error and compatibility everywhere else. If the sex is not good, or if it's not happening, everything else that is petty will take on greater proportions. So take it upon yourself to make sure that the sex is good — for both of you. And that means allowing him to conquer you and give you pleasure that only he can give, so that he feels you will keep coming back to him, as well as he will be wanting you when he is not with you, and hoping the next time you two are together is sooner rather than later.
"Insightful and overflowing with helpful information. An in your face motivator!"
-- S. Spencer"'Think & Date Like A Man' is a winner!"
-- Shirley Roe"What Woman need to know!"
-- Jenny Paulino"Smart, funny, direct and one of the best "how to" books I've read in years."
-- Critic"Inspiring!!!"
-- Melinda Yarborough"In your face motivation"
-- Patricia"This book gets results!"
-- Julianna"April opens up in true girlfriend form."
-- Heather Froeschl"A book that will help any woman find and keep the man of her dreams."
-- Paula Henderson"Self-Help that's actually interesting!"
-- I've Got Game
